Here We Go…Again!

This is good enough for a warm-up, right? She thought so! ;)

Well, hello again spanko friends! Seems like it’s been forever since I’ve checked in and gave you all some updates…it has been forever! Almost an entire year! This can’t keep happening, and I apologize, it’s been my own fault.

While it’s true that I’ve been busy with this trucking gig (I do work about 60-70 hours a week), there’s still no excuse as to why I can’t at least check in periodically. With that being said, I thought I’d quickly catch you up on what’s been going on with me lately.

One big, huge, enormous thing happened last year, and I never shared it with you all…I finally attended a National Spanking Party!

I attended the Lone Star Spanking Party in Houston, Texas last May, and I had the most amazing time! If you remember, one of my major goals as a spanko was to finally attend one of these parties, and 2018 was the year I finally made it happen! I attended the four-day event with my Spanko family, including Kim’s Daddy (OTK_Jim on Fetlife), and his wife (lillabrat on Fetlife).

I had such a blast! It was a lot more fun than I ever even imagined. Surprisingly though, there were a few things about the party that took me off-guard. For starters, I had no idea that I was going to be extremely shy and socially awkward at the party! I guess it really shouldn’t have been that much of a surprise. I spend most of my days anymore alone on a truck in the middle of nowhere. Coming into a room full of 300+ people…I should have known better! Although, I will say, that by the end of the party, I was finally opening up enough to where I wish the party was another day or two haha! I guess this is why there are multiple parties every year!

The amazing organizers and models at the 2017 Lone Star Spanking Party! (Photo credit: http://www.lonestarspankingparty.com)

I finally got to meet some amazing spankos in this lifestyle that I’ve been following for years! I’m proud to say I actually got spanked by Miss Dana Specht! If you haven’t checked out my interview with her several years ago, make sure to go check that out! I also finally met Alex Reynolds, who I also did an interview with some years ago. Both were really amazing people and I can’t wait to meet them again soon! Before I get too far off topic…I want to give a special shoutout to Sarah Gregory, John Osbourne, and Paul “Tubaman” Rogers for putting together this amazing event each year, and for Madame Samantha B for being a gracious hostess!

Dana Specht during the “Dana Specht Scolding Experience” Let me tell you, folks, she is WAY more intimidating when she’s scolding you in person! (Photo Credit: http://www.lonestarspankingpary.com)

I’m sure I will be talking about the party more in upcoming posts, I promise there will be more posts! I just had to get it out there that I finally made it to a party! I’m looking forward to going to another party this year, and at the time of this writing, I’m not sure if we’ll be going back to Lone Star or trying another party. Obviously, the eventual goal would be to go to all of them, but with how things are going with my trucking right now, I have to only go with one per year due to scheduling.

I have to quickly say that some of my highlights of the party were getting to meet AND get spanked by Miss Elizabeth and Miss Rachel, both are very talented and well-respected pro-disciplinarians! Miss Elizabeth took me over her lap at the Bad Boy’s Breakfast event and I have to say that her hand stung worse than the hairbrush she used later!

Miss Elizabeth on the left with Sarah Gregory at 2017 LSSP! (Photo Credit: http://www.lonestarspankingparty.com)

Then I was very fortunate enough to sign up for a spot in the Principal’s Office event, hosted by Miss Rachel and her partner J.D. Webb! This was a fun event where you get to make up a reason for being sent to the Principal’s office and they decide your fate on which punishment you should take! Now be warned friends, this event is NOT for the soft-players! The infractions may be made up, but the punishments were real! Miss Rachel and Mr. Webb didn’t put up with any shenanigans, and I ended up getting 5 full-force, school-style, paddle swats…from each! Lasted barely 2 minutes, but by far the hardest spanking I took all weekend (along with taking my first REAL caning from John Osbourne during the British Discipline event…but that’s another story for another time)!

The amazing Miss Rachel…she’s smiling because she loves to spank bottoms with all those toys! (Photo Credit: Miss Rachel)

Lilla brat got to join me in the event (I believe she went first) and listening to her punishment did not settle my nerves! Check out the aftermath of her punishment below!

Lilla Brat at the 2018 Lone Star Spanking Party after a trip to the Principal’s Office!

I’m sure there’s a lot of other memories I’m leaving out from my first spanking party, but as I said, there will be more stories for another time! All in all, I had an amazing time, and I’m hoping at my next party, I won’t be so shy and awkward! Thankfully I did meet several people that I can now say are really good friends, and I know I won’t feel alone when I walk into a room next time!

Well, that’s it for now Spankos! Stay tuned for more updates in the coming weeks. There are some big plans in the works, some new weekly features, and even a return of interviews! I hope you all stick around and enjoy. Pop in the comment section below and share with me if you’ve ever been to a spanking party! Did you like it? Do you have advice for newbies? What party do you plan on attending next? Hope you all have an amazing weekend and I look forward to sharing more with you next time!

Why is Mrs. a Switch??????

“Why are you a switch?” I get that question all the time! It is not because I like switches from trees, actually I hate them. I still remember the images of my grandfather going outside to this huge tree in their yard, getting out his pocket knife and cutting a switch to be used on me. Yes I am better for it, but it is also why I do not spank with switches very often, honestly I can’t tell you the last time. I remember something about Jon and I in our first house six years ago and both of us naked….well okay something like that!!

I am not a Domme, Mistress, Ma’am, Mommy, sub, slave, Top, bottom, and so on. I am Kim, nice to meet you!! Actually I hate labels, and honestly if it was possible I would not even identify as a switch. Just like in most sectors of life we are expected to take on titles and roles. So for the sole purpose of helping cut down on confusion, I take on the label of switch.

What is a “switch”? Well aside from being mean stick things, I know my hatred of them is weird considering I love birches!!! For me being a switch means you can go either way. You can spank and be spanked. It does tend to open you up for more possibilities in the lifestyle. So if you don’t mind being spanked, and don’t mind spanking, even if you only play with one gender, then you are a switch.

Now for me, I enjoy helping people and seeing them improve, thus why I spank. I have seen the benefits of a good proper spanking and I almost feel selfish if I don’t provide it to those that need it. Now through the last few years since I got married, I have been pickier on who I will spank. That is just to cut down on the unneeded stress and strain on myself as I do have a lot of other things to do of a day. I am not as free as I use to be. I do not spank because I am a dominate person. I am actually quite reserved.

I believe and seek out spankings for myself for purely discipline purposes. I tend to do well in regards of doing what I should and shouldn’t. But there are plenty of things I need to improve on and quite frankly we all screw up from time to time. I do not accept spankings because I am a submissive. I have never in my life “submitted” to someone. I can never give up that much control. Yes I tend to be a little bit of a control freak, which comes from not wanting to be ran over by others all the time.

This is what “switching” is to me. It is an outlet to tend to my needs as well as the needs of others. This allows me to be myself. I am one who does anything and everything I can for other people. At the same time I tend to forget about myself. Well that is where my getting spanked comes from. That means someone else is helping me focus and remember myself. They are helping relieve the pressure, stress, or guilt I have from doing something I know I shouldn’t have.

Never accepted a spanking? Why not give it a try, with the right person of course! Never tried to give a spanking? Try it! You might surprise yourself that there are other avenues to go in this lifestyle. It is not for everyone but you will never know if you don’t try!!!

So here is me in a nutshell!! Let’s review, I am nothing more than who I am. I am Kim!!! Hope that answers the question of why I am who I am.

 

Happy Spankalicious Monday!!!

Mrs. Welts

The Truth Shall……Set Your Bottom on Fire!!!

Hey Spankos!!! Miss Welts here again!

I have been reading a lot and observing how some individuals in this lifestyle handle things. I have seen so much lately about lying, not telling on yourself, and so forth.

Lets all go back to our early days in preschool and elementary school. Did everyone not go through the same lessons as I did? Were you not taught about telling the truth and the difference between truths and lies? That lesson was always magnified if it was not learned properly by soap and a belt, so its something i’m very familiar with.

They trust that children can take the stand in a court of law and tell the truth and they also have to prove they know the difference?? Why can’t grown adults not tell the truth?

This is a spin-off of my last post about taking what you ask for! 

I get irked every time I see a sub/bottom/spankee/slave, etc trying to figure out how to avoid admitting what they did. How can someone expect their spanker to see everything they do? Jon and I live together but we both go out individually to run errands, he works full time outside of the home, I tend to go to bed at weird hours, What I am getting at is even though we live under the same roof I probably only know exactly what he is and isn’t doing 2-3 hours a day. 

Somethings are easy to tell, for example i’m looking at several dishes I asked Jon to put up this morning……..That will be a post for another day. 

If you have done something and you know its either wrong, or your spanker will not accept that behavior then its your job to “tattle” on yourself. Yes in those same classes in preschool we learned how tattling is bad, but tattling on yourself is more honorable then sitting there hiding secrets. 

You want to get better at your actions? You want to be held accountable? You want to progress? You want to be trusted? Then time to admit to it. 

Most humans are really crappy liars so a good part of the time you might think your getting away with it but instead your spanker knows and is waiting for you to step forward. Most spankers want to see their spankee grow and move forward and in order to do that a spankee must be able to stand tall and admit what they did and be willing to accept what happens after that. 

I have had many naughty girls and boys in front of me and we have been going over their actions and I can tell when i’m not getting the truth, or i’m only getting half truths. Most spankees show it in their body language and face. So quit playing the games and just allow us to do what you requested in the first place. HELP YOU

Yes telling the truth means you will probably be in trouble of some sort! But what does lying get you? I have seen many many many spanking relationships end on the back of lying. You can’t be in an adult consensual relationship if you can not tell the truth. Its the most childish thing you can do. I rather a grown man throw a tantrum like he is 3 years old then lie to me. Then I can still see him as an adult, a naughty adult, but lying shows me who the children really are. 

I know some will read this and give me a hard time because I have had to deal with Jon lying, and all I can say to that is just like anyone else people make mistakes and its all about fixing them and moving forward. Underneath this “spanking relationship” we have a marriage and family to consider. Its not just some fly by night spanker/spankee situation. 

So I ask everyone to really consider what they are doing in their own relationships. What secrets are you hiding? What have you don’t that the guilt is eating you up inside? Its time to sit down and come clean. It truly will make you a stronger person because of it. 

Lets all stop the games and lying to save our own butts…if you were so concerned with the stability and safety of your bottom then why are you in this lifestyle? Seriously, a butt can take just about anything. The pain is temporary, while the betrayal and pain you cause with lying is forever!

Just think on that for a minute! 

Happy Spankings my Spanko Friends!!

 

Miss Welts

Everyone Starts Somewhere!

Hey Spankos!!!! Miss Welts here!!

Having a crappy night full of pain and inability to sleep. I was reading Jon’s post about starting out and it inspired me to add some of my own information.

I get asked all the time, “How did you get started?” I don’t know if I ever got started per say, I never really had to. Unlike Jon I was spanked from the age of at least 2 until I was a pre-teen. There isnt many people in my life that did not get the chance to spank me growing up. Babysitters, parents, grandparents, teachers, principals, and troop leaders….im sure I have left others out. Spanked for missing a shot in the big basketball game? Yes I had that type of coach. It was just how it was in my childhood. I can’t and quite frankly do not try and explain it.

Given that I was always disciplined for even the smallest transgression I could not go long without it. It seems after spanking wore off and my parents then found themselves without a plan and just turned off and decided to never punish me again. No grounding or the sort. Actually, I take that back they did ground me one day….my sister ran away and I was the one grounded….yeah.

****My PSA, if you are under the age of 18 Please for one exit this site, and two never follow what I did.****

When I was 15 I was tired of getting away with everything and started to search out on my own. I guess its where you can say I finally realized I was a spanko. Though let me tell you its hard not to realize it when your bent over your hot male babysitter’s lap and he is busting your butt because you did something on purpose just to get spanked. We aren’t here to discuss that now!! I did some research and learned that my best friend was a spanko.  I wound up dating several guys who either were spankos or I at least got them to go along for the ride.

Eventually I started venturing out and spanking others and met a lot of people that way.

Here are a few things I have learned along the way, hope they help!

1. Everyone was new at some point. Ask questions, don’t be afraid of the “pros” or those that seem to have all the experience. We all received and given our first spankings before. It takes years to build the strength to handle a tough session. It also is equally as hard to give a proper spanking.

2. Don’t be afraid to suck!!! Okay so that first spanking you cried with the first hand spank? Thats fine!! You couldn’t swing the paddle hard enough? Okay! There is always next time. Don’t let your fears of not being good and not being able to handle it stop you from experiencing this side of your life.

3. Say No!! You can say no, it does not matter if your the spanker or spankee. If you do not like how the spanking is going say so. Many times as a spanker I have refused to continue on because I did not believe where it was going was beneficial to the spankee.

4. Speak UP!!!! Do not leave a comment unsaid. It might take the fun out of that first spanking but if you want it to happen tell the spanker BEFORE your session. Your likely to forget in the excitement of the moment and you do not want to miss out on valuable chances. Also knowing exactly what will happen can put the spanker and spankee both at ease going into the session.

5. Make some noise!!! I hate hearing people talk about how they are so afraid to spank because of noise in hotels and so forth. Don’t be!! Your a consenting adult and have every right to do what you please in the room you pay for!! Now im not saying make people think your being murdered! Worst thing that will happen is a cop will show up and you both have to admit your doing a consensual spanking and all is well!! I have personal experience with this and its kinda embarrassing but funny!

6. Don’t take it all off!! Are you not comfortable with nudity or would feel comfortable with your panties on? There is nothing wrong with that!! I will say its easier to judge how the spanking is going based on actually seeing skin but its a personal preference. Make your feelings known ahead of time! But are you like me and a body is a body? By all means take it off and get going!!!

7. Give Feedback!! Some spankers do not like talking during the spanking and that is fine. But if it does not hurt enough say something, if you don’t like a position, be heard. At the end of the spanking or sometime later tell the spanker what you thought. What worked, what didn’t. It will only benefit you in the long run to be able to only use what works for you.

8. Breathe!! This is something Jon forgets quite frequently. Breathe!! I know its stressful, it hurts, it gets hot. But you have to breathe. If you tense up and forget to breathe it hurts far greater than it should. Take a moment and breathe. If it is going too fast ask for it to slow down. Stay as calm as possible to take in every moment of the experience!!

9. Don’t worry about others!!! Afraid someone will know? Afraid someone will out you? Don’t be. Most of my highschool knew what I was doing and guess what? It didn’t change a thing in my life. If someone finds you on these online boards then they would have to explain why they themselves were on the site!! What you do as consenting adults is perfectly fine and legal. Don’t let anyone make you afraid to be yourself!!

10. HAVE FUN!!!! You only get each spanking once. Enjoy it, or loathe it, or fear it. But just be in the moment and take it for what it is. Punishment or fun, learn from it and take the time to actually soak it in!

Anywho, Thats enough rambling tonight!!! Sleep Well Spankos!!