Self Spanking 101: The Mind!

Hey Spankos! Ms Welts here! I know its been a long time! I have been taking a break from fetlife, message boards, and chat rooms for the last few months. I need a nice long break. We have a huge life change coming soon and while I am excited I am also overwhelmed! I am working extremely hard at my own business, and since I make everything by hand, do all the sales, pictures, online work, emails, etc. I just don’t have the energy to handle all the other sites right now! We will be making huge changes to this site soon and I hope you are as excited as we are!

Now about the title, Self-Spanking!!!!!!!

This is a highly asked set of questions, and a very common situation that nearly every spanko finds themselves in at one time or another in their life. Lets be honest, even in a relationship, spanko or not, you do think about it from time to time. Draping yourself over the side of the couch and spanking your bare butt until you can’t stand it?

Then there are those who are not in a spanking relationship, this becomes even more important.

Don’t go grabbing your hairbrush and start spanking just yet! Lets talk about ways to make your self spanking more fulfilling!

First lesson is about the mind! You want to be in the proper mindset to make it meaningful. Spanking is not as easy as people portray it in the movies.

Start out with a good, long, hard, discussion with yourself. Ask yourself a few questions!

1. Can you handle spanking yourself? Are you able to spank yourself? Not everyone is capable of self spanking! Do not feel bad if you can’t do it. You are human and we all approach things differently.

2. Do you have proper alone time to handle a spanking?

3. Do you have proper implements to use in a spanking? We will discuss this more in an implement blog. Some can use their hand and make it hard enough, others can not.

4. Do you want to do discipline or erotic self spanking? There is a huge difference from start to finish!

5. Are your motivations for trying self-spanking in the right place? Are you just trying to get spanked to be spanked? Or are you ready for taking this step in your spanking lifestyle?

6. Are you being forced into self-spanking? Self-spanking is used a lot in online relationships. If this is not something your comfortable with but a “Top,” “ER,” etc forcing the issue? Stop!

After you have had time to question what you are doing lets go over a few things to prepare!

Step 1: Deciding you need a spanking. So you have earned a spanking? Think about why you have earned the spanking. Have you been getting bad grades in college? Have you been lazy at work? Have you been mean to others? Not doing your chores? Tisk Tisk….you need a spanking. So figure out why it is that you are getting your spanking!

Step 2: Write it down! Start a journal or notebook. Write down what you have done wrong, and assign yourself a punishment. Make sure it is something you can handle and you better make sure that it is hard enough!

Step 3: Timing! Make sure you choose a time to deal with your misbehavior. Remember that spankings can be loud and you want to make sure that it is a time where no one will hear what you are doing!

Step 4: Location! Location! Location! The location of your spanking is very important, we will talk more about this in the position blog but you want a location where you can be comfortable enough to be able to reach around and handle this discipline!

In the next lesson we will discuss implements. I will show you some things that we use and where you can get some good self-spanking items!

Thank you for all the support spankos!

Ms Welts

R E S P E C T!

Now if you just read the title to this post and automatically got “that song” stuck in your head, I do apologize.

However, I feel after lurking around social media, on sites like Fetlife and Tumblr, I’ve come to the conclusion that for some people in our community, respect is nothing more than a word.

Now what do I mean by this? Am I trying to start petty drama because someone hurt my feelings on some forum? No, absolutely not! What I’m trying to say is there are people in our community who have somehow lost all sense of reality and treat others with no sense of respect. They think it’s okay to treat people like they are some object, piece of meat, or as just meaningless words on a screen that don’t have any feelings. What they fail to realize is these people in our lifestyle and community are not just individuals who are brave enough to bare their souls to random online strangers on our kinky forums, but they are human beings as well.

Unfortunately the majority of this disgusting behavior comes from my fellow men and is  usually directed towards young females, but of course this isn’t always the case. I’ve seen women display this utter lack of respect to their fellow kinksters as well. But why is that? What makes this type of behavior okay? Are people really that careless about the feelings of their fellow men and women or are they just trying to get some sort of rise out of them?

I do know that some people out there think that disrespecting or degrading another online is somehow funny and think their victims or others around them should participate in their laughter. Personally, I think it’s ridiculous when people think disrespect of that sort is funny in any way. It comes down to the age-old adage of “walk a mile in their shoes”, and ask yourself how you would feel if someone online made a disrespectful comment about you. I’m sure you would think it’s hilarious right? Probably not.

Now some of you would (hopefully) say “but Mr. Welt’s if I’m being disrespectful by the things I say, what should I say instead?”, and that’s an excellent question! However, instead of coming up with ways to be a polite and charming member of the online community, my friend and 2014 Spankingblogg Spankee of the Year Winner Alex Reynolds has already done an excellent posting that addresses that very topic. You can read about it at her blog here:

http://alexinspankingland.blogspot.com/2014/02/how-to-comment-politely-on-kinky-photos.html

Thanks for your time today and remember to always treat each others how you would want to be treated, with dignity and respect. Stay tuned as I have a fairly large announcement coming up about some big changes that are about to be happening in my life and hopefully for this blog as well. Have a spanktastic weekend!

 

Tumblr Pics of the Week! 2/23/15

I know it’s been a terribly long time since I’ve done any shot’s of the week. So I thought I’d make it up to you this time with more than just one!

Hope you enjoy these pics as much as I do. They were found while cruising on cruising on Tumblr, so I thought I’d show you some of the highlights of the best that I’ve found this week!

First up is some good cornertime shots I thought were interesting…A nice “tip-toe position” that I’ve actually never seen before. Followed by another great B&W shot of a poor young lady who had a taste of the cane, and some ginger with her cornertime! Then last but not least, I thought it would be nice to add a picture of some male bottoms in the corner, with a humiliating twist!

Nice tip-toe posture! (Photo Credit Unknown)

Nice tip-toe posture! (Photo Credit Unknown)

Nothing like a good figging to make cornertime more interesting! (Photo Credit Unknown)

Nothing like a good figging to make cornertime more interesting! (Photo Credit Unknown)

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Great idea to humiliate your naughty boy in the corner! (Photo Credit Unknown)

 

In our next set we have a great shot from punishedbrats.com, one of the best sources for quality spanking pictures and videos out there! Then how can we not share a PB picture without showing a picture of their greatest producer/model, the lovely and talented Pixie! Perhaps she was a little too talkative during her spanking

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Photo Credit: Punishedbrats.com

Photo Credit: Punishedbrats.com

The ever so lovely Amber Pixie Wells! (Photo Credit: Punishedbrats.com)

The ever so lovely Amber Pixie Wells! (Photo Credit: Punishedbrats.com)

Last but not least we have a couple from my favorite Tumblr blog, and future mega site, Spanking360. These pics in particular are from Tommy and his girl Giselle, and it showcases their great DD dynamic in these stunning photos!

Poor Giselle getting her wet bottom blistered by the tub! (Photo Credit: Spanking360)

Poor Giselle getting her wet bottom blistered by the tub! (Photo Credit: Spanking360)

Beautiful B&W photo showcasing Giselle can give as good as she can get, and Tommy's cute tush! (Photo Credit: Spanking360)

Beautiful B&W photo showcasing Giselle can give as good as she can get, and Tommy’s cute tush! (Photo Credit: Spanking360)

It’s Been Awhile!

Well hi there spanko friends!

I have to apologize for not updating A Spanko World in over a month (since Christmas!), and I hope you all are enjoying the new year. How are those New Year’s resolutions going?

Here’s my apology for not updating recently!

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Sorry for not posting!

For me it’s been a very hectic couple months at work and last month I had all four of my wisdom teeth removed! I was out of work for a whole week, and even though Mrs. Welts was an excellent nurse, she was practically shoving me out the door when I was feeling better! Like most I HATE going to the dentist, but I do have to admit, it wasn’t as bad as I thought. My surgeon was a soft spoken and humble retired Colonel so that made it easier as well. Now I’m just trying to get back on my horse to get back into shape for work and hopefully I can reenlist before the summer.

So I also wanted to take the time to recognize my friend, and former guest on this blog, Alex Reynolds, who was awarded The Spanking Blogg’s 2014 Spankee of the Year award! Extremely happy for her and it was well deserved after all the hard work she puts into modeling and putting the best spanking content out on the web. Visit her blog at www.alexinspankingland.com and give her some well deserved props!

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2014 Spankee of the Year: Alex Reynolds! (Photo Credit: Assume The Position Studios)

Also I can’t leave without talking about what’s on everyone’s mind in the lifestyle lately…The Fifty Shades Of Grey movie.

So will I see it? Well, yes I want to see the movie, but only because I want to see the differences between the book and the screen adaptation. Me personally,  I thought the book was a good idea story wise, it had an interesting plot, intriguing characters, and even some nice steamy scenes. Although in writing and execution, the book is total garbage! By the end of reading the book not only was I disappointed at how the story unfolded (more on that some other time), I was extremely disgusted at the poor writing itself. I mean, if I have to hear one more time about Ana’s ‘inner goddess’ I’m gonna lose it!

Yes the movie is not going to be as explicit as the book, that’s to be expected, but I do hope to see at least one of the two fairly good spanking scenes in the book portrayed in the movie. I’m also keeping my fingers crossed that since I don’t have to deal with sub-par writing, the movie will be an overall better experience…we’ll see.

And also folks Valentine’s day is just around the corner, and that also means it’s my third blogiversary! I’m hoping to do a special post of some sort to commemorate the event, what do you guys want to see? Drop me a comment and let me know!

Thanks again for your patience my spanko friends, hopefully you’ll see a lot more posts coming soon! Until then, have a great day and happy spankings!

Happy Holidays Spankos!

Hello you beautiful spankos out there! We just wanted to take a minute and say Happy Holidays and Merry Christmas to all of you from us, Jon and Kim Welts!

We hope you enjoyed this Holiday season and spending this Christmas with family, friends, or that special someone!

We look forward to seeing more of our fellow spanko friends in the coming months and we’ll be bringing you lots of new updates on all the goings on in the New Year.

For a fun Christmas spanking post, I thought I would share the new promo for the 1st annual Lone Star Spanking Party in Houston featuring the lovely Sarah Gregory and Justin! These two are so adorable together, and I’m sure you’ll agree!

http://www.spankingtube.com/video/47925/christmas-promo-lone-star-spanking-party

 

Spanking Of The Week: 11/30/2014

Hi you naughty spanko peeps! I hope you all are doing well and enjoyed your Thanksgiving…or is it Spanksgiving? :) I know we did here at the Welts household and we’re still munching on leftovers probably for the next few days still! We both have had a lot to be thankful for this year, including you guys and gals that keep us going and make us smile!

With that being said, I hope I can make you guys smile a bit today in return with another installment of spanking of the week!

This week I have a new video from Audrey Knight and Stefan Rhyzkhov who decided to share a very real and very severe punishment strapping with us.

I am always awe-inspired by how silent and stoic that Stefan can take a really hard spanking, but seeing the reaction in his legs…that uncontrollable trembling…you know damn well how much that’s hurting him!

Hope you all enjoy a glimpse into this real couple’s real domestic discipline partnership!

Impact! Holy Ouch!

Impact! Holy Ouch!

http://spanking360.tumblr.com/post/103649619384/spanking360-home-life-audrey-sees-what-her-new

Thanks spanko friends, have a great Sunday!

 

Spanking Picture Of The Week: Veteran’s Day Weekend! (11/9/2014)

Hey spanko friends! Hope everyone is enjoying their Veteran’s Day weekend, I know I am, I have 4 days off and don’t get to go back to work til Tuesday, woot!

I thought I would do a special shout out for Veteran’s Day by posting a picture from the awesome spanking site Spanked-in-Uniform!

Happy Veteran's Day from A Spanko World! (Photo Credit: Spanked-in-Uniform)

Happy Veteran’s Day from A Spanko World! (Photo Credit: Spanked-in-Uniform)

Thanks to all the men and women, past and present, who were brave enough to put on the uniform to defend our country. Without you, we wouldn’t be able to enjoy the freedoms that we have today…including spanking! :)

Happy spankings gang!

Jon Welts

Alternative Punishment: Corner Time

Hello Spankos! Mrs Here!

There seems to be a common start or end result for most Spankers. They put you in the corner.

Before a spanking this could be a place to worry and think about what you did and the punishment that awaits. Afterwards it is a time to reflect on what you did.

A lot of spankos use this punishment/tool and it works well.

There are a ton of ways to do it! Kneeling, hands on head, hands behind back, nose on the wall, panties down, pants up, naked, and so on! You can get real creative!

This actually is a tool that works well for Jon. He responds well when I put him in the corner and get him refocused!

Then there is me! Corners are a hard limit for me. Why you ask? Because they make me feel abandoned. When I was really young my dad, who has always worked a ton of jobs, was tired of my sister and I one day and packed our bags. He put us in a car and drove around and told us how tired he was of us and our behavior. How he couldn’t take it any more. He took us to this scary looking building and said that this is where parents drop off kids they do not want and can not control any more! He then took us out of the car, we were screaming, and handed us our bags and left us there on the side of the street! No he did not leave us, and yes I know this was a scare tactic! But it is something that has really hurt me and left me with resentment and issues through life!

The way I view corners is the spanker is putting me there because he doesn’t want to deal with me, or the issue. Just like my dad leaving me on the side of the street, he did not want to be the person in charge and handle a situation! He just wanted to leave us there. So when I am told to go to a corner I feel the same I did that day! That I am too horrible to be talked to or dealt with! I don’t deserve the attention and proper adjustment to my behavior by the spanker. That the spanker is angry at me or just can’t be bothered. Im sure that is not the case but events have left me that way!

We all have our comfort levels one very topic and this is mine.

How do corners make you feel? Do you feel relaxed in them? Or do you have issues with them as well? I know the community is pretty split about this topic!

Would love to hear your feedback!

Miss Welts

My First Spanking Experience–Miss Welts Edition!

Hey Spankos! I know I promised this post a couple weeks ago and honestly I have typed it up several times over the last year and have struggled to bring myself to post it.

I want to start out with a few public service announcements. If you are under 18 please leave now. Yes I discuss an event, that I will be honest, happened when I was 15. I am in no way condoning what I did and do not condone anyone else to follow in my foot steps. I can not change what happened all those years ago. Also while what happened was illegal, that is not my concern at this point. I had many chances to do something but chose not to for my own reasons. Now this isn’t even an issue as the man involved has since passed away and he had to answer to a power higher than a jury of his peers for what he did and I am at peace with the whole thing. Please take this for what it is, a reflection of a life changing event that is only one of the many things that turned me into the spanko I am today. Nothing more, nothing less!

Now going back a bit I grew up like a lot do in the south, where you step out of line you got spanked. Though a lot of the times it went out of bounds or was unwarranted, it happened. I found myself from a young age thinking about spanking in the realm of adults. Wondering if they same thing happened to a wife or husband when they stepped out of line? There are a couple times when things were said or I saw things that made me really wonder. My parents would make comments to each other and looking back now, they make some sense. Now I do not want my suspicion of what my parents do in their free time answered. I already had more then my fair share of that when I, as an adult, read a letter from one of my older sister’s many boyfriends and in great detail it told me more then I ever wanted to know. So anyone who says spanking gene is hereditary……I honestly think there is truth to that! But that is another story for another day!

After my parents quit spanking me, they quit punishing me all together. I found myself just struggling with this horrible guilt. I am so hard on myself and if I don’t perform to the best of my ability I just don’t know how to handle things. I picked up self-spanking at 13 as a way to try and deal with this. At 14, I was sitting in my friend’s living room and I broke down and told her how I felt. Surprisingly, she was very receptive and it led to a 5 year relationship together that also added spanking to it.  But this isn’t about my F/f  spanking, and lesbian sexual history now is it!!!

A few months after I had my initial discussion with her, she brought it up again. I do not remember what I did but I was just beside myself with guilt. I could not handle it at all! She recommended that I take a spanking. But I needed a real spanking, not one that my 15 year old girlfriend could give me! She mentioned a friend of her family and said for me to ask him. We could trust him, she said. It would be okay! He was older, old enough to be my father I guess. But I trusted her so why not trust him?

The next weekend comes and I am at her house, her dad worked night shifts and wasn’t due home until after 11PM. So I walk down the street to this guy’s house, we will call him Frank! Frank answered and was surprised to see me alone. I have never been to his house without my friend and he thought something was wrong. I don’t know if I looked as panicked as I felt but he immediately started questioning what was going on, if my friend was okay, why I was there, and so on. I calmed him down and told him I was just there to talk. We sat down on his couch and I just let everything out. I told him about my actions, my needs, my guilt. I guess I was at some weird confessional or something. He hugged me and asked what I wanted, I looked him straight in the eyes and told him to spank me!

You would think a grown man being asked by a 15 year old girl to be spanked would seem confused, or something right? Nope! He stood up and started unhooking his belt before I even realized that I had just said it! To make a long story short he spanked me with his belt and honestly I felt a million times better! It was the first time I realized that yes this really does help, this is what I need! All is great, I felt great. I was hugging Frank and thanking him thinking all is well. Wiping my tears and rubbing my bottom, getting ready to go back to my friend’s house. All was great!

Wrong! He grabbed my arm and pulled me to his bedroom! He proceeded to assault me sexually. I begged him to stop and all he would say is I asked for a spanking, I gave up control, this is what I had to do! I had to finish what i started! Made everything my fault and I believed him! I believed that this was my duty for what I asked and what I wanted.

After this was over, I went back to my friend’s house where I just kept it to myself and acted like everything was fine. Never speaking of that moment again.

This is why I can not associate spanking with sex. This is why I can not be made to do “anything and everything!” This is why I am who I am.

I can not mention enough about boundaries! Remember you might not think so, but you are in charge! Speak up! If it is not going how you need it to…WALK AWAY! You owe them nothing!

This is not to scare anyone from exploring their needs and desires. Just know that you might think everything is okay, but it is a dangerous lifestyle. Please play carefully at all times!

Yes I might seem jaded or stand offish in my feelings and in relationships. Just remember that everyone has a past and respect it! We all have events that shape us!

 

Hope this answers some questions!

 

Happy Spankings!

Kim

Spanking of The Week! 11/2/2014

I thought I would help you guys start off your week right and share with you this really cute spanking .gif from Audrey Knight and Stefan Rhyzkhov’s Spanking360! This is from their awesome Tumblr blog which can be located at http://www.spanking360.tumblr.com!

The caption from Tumblr: Dad gives Toni a paddling in Spanking360’s “Madeleine was Tattlin’”

The caption from Tumblr: Dad gives Toni a paddling in Spanking360’s “Madeleine was Tattlin’”

 

Look at that pout! Adorable!

Hope you all have an awesome day!